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Arcadia Teaching Mission Group, Arcadia, California

Teacher: JarEl

The Imperfect Nature of Man


Allowing One To Be Human

July 20, 2003

Prayer Henry Z: Father thank you for your presence. Thank you for the opportunities you have given us to learn and to grow. Thank you for being there when we call upon you. Thanks for your trust and your friendship. Thanks for your patience, watching us grow as human beings. Thank you especially for your guidance, though it is invariably difficult for us to always follow that guidance, we do look forward to the little voice that points the way. Thank you for allowing us to make our own mistakes and to grow by these mistakes. Thank you for creating us in this tremendous world of opportunity to serve you.

JarEl: TR, George. Good evening, it is I, your teacher, JarEl. Welcome to those who come here on a regular basis and welcome to those who are here for the first time and also those that have not been here for awhile. It is good to be back and it is good to see all of you once again. I would like to take this opportunity to expand on certain themes that have been discussed here tonight. One of these themes is the obvious imperfect nature of man and the countless mistakes that one makes during his or her lifetime. What I would like to express to you, is that it is OK to make mistakes. These are all experiences in your lives that may or may not make you stronger. It all depends on how you look at it. It all depends on what you take from it, what lesson you learn. One must be receptive and open to understand the message that is coming through. Many times these lessons are overlooked and yet again the experience is repeated, again and again. Either that, or it is projected in some other fashion, but in each experience there is a lesson to learn.

That is the same in each relationship that you experience. Every person in your life, whether it be a brief experience or a long term relationship has a purpose and a meaning for you. Nothing is by accident. It is entirely up to you to derive the meaning from that relationship. If you do not learn it from that person, you will be given another opportunity to learn the same lesson. Many times you may be disappointed with other people. Everyone seems to have high expectations from their friends or family, but these expectations only lead you to fall, for when people do not meet your expectations, you become disappointed or depressed. I am not saying to lower your expectations, but at least give it leeway. At least give it a chance, so you can say it is OK if someone does not reach your expectations, "I will forgive them". If you say that enough you will do away with much of your unhappiness and bitterness.

These lessons you have to learn on your own and they must come within you. For within is where all the answers lay and from within is where you project your goodness and kindness. These lessons must be learned from your experiences in life, from your interactions in different relations. It is not something to be learned by yourself, for it is in the friction of the dynamics that you mold your character and in turn help others.

If you are kindhearted and good you should be set atop a hill so you may inspire others. So others may see your light and want to be like you. If you desire to be kindhearted, you must learn to forgive, you must not judge others and you must not have so many high expectations of people. The one rule that you must learn is that no one on this earth is perfect, that you are all learning, growing and evolving as human beings. One day, yes, you shall be perfect, but not now, not here. There is so much imperfection on your world that you cannot put yourself high on any horse and call yourself perfect, for then you blunder. You must forgive your brothers and sisters for being imperfect, just as you are imperfect yourself, so others should forgive you as well. Would you not like others to forgive you when you make a mistake? I know that you have made many mistakes in your life and I know many have forgiven you. That is why you must forgive others when they make mistakes. To learn to forgive is to learn to find the road to perfection.

Henry Z: At what point do we allow people to be human? At what point do we allow this humanness to take over? I want to hold people to a certain standard but I have to forgive them because they are human and imperfect. Does that make any sense, my question? Do I need to rephrase it?

JarEl: TR, George. No Henry, I understand. I would suggest you respect that level of understanding that each individual is at. That you respect the level of spirituality each individual is at as well. Yes, you can have aspirations for them but don’t expect them to reach those aspirations on your time-table. They have their own time-table; they have their own pace in life. One day or another they will reach that point. God is infinitely patient to allow this. Ask yourself this question, are you patient enough?

Henry Z: I do ask myself that question. God demands that we aspire to his common denominator and his standard. At what level do we bring that in? Should we actually hold a standard? At what point do we allow people to be human? Is it still OK to hold people to a standard?

JarEl: TR, George. My dear friend Henry, I understand your frustration with the current state of society and the current norms of your education system. All I can say to you my friend is that you continue to plant your seeds and the fruit shall come. I understand your frustration of trying to change things for the better; trying to change society. There is much that we can do, yes, but do not be frustrated so much that you give up, that is not the answer. Continue to plant your seeds.

Henry Z: Thank you JarEl. JarEl: TR, George. Are there any other questions?

Stella: I am kind of puzzled with your statement Henry of allowing people to be human. What do you mean allowing people to be human? Do you mean to allow them to be brutal or one who is making mistakes.

Henry Z: Yes, how many mistakes do we allow before we begin to correct them? It is OK that they make mistakes, it is OK that they are human and blunder, but do we have to sit and just watch it fall to pieces in front of our faces?

JarEl: TR, George. That is why you have laws in your land. That is why you have a justice system. I speak on a personal level my friend. I speak on a friendship level. Ultimately that is where it all is, between one person and another. You can have society judge a man but can you judge a man personally?

Henry Z. That is a good point JarEl. That is a very good point. I like what you said about just keep planting the seeds - they will spout. I agree with that. Is that a little clearer Stella?

Stella: Not really.

Henry Z. Let me approach it this way. I had to come to understand that it is OK to be human and to aspire to be God-like. Because when we aspire to be God-like, God is not punishing us because we are not like him yet. It is OK that we make mistakes and that we come to him gradually and slowly. I had an awareness where I actually began to understand the divine and human implications of Jesus’ life. In that Jesus purposely did not blunder, he purposely held a life in which he showed us that it was possible, during his time even, to live an exemplary human life. We have the Bible, we have hearsay and we have The Urantia Book, but even in those three you don’t find any blunders at all in Jesus’ life, there are no blunders, no mistakes, he was able to hold each situation in its correct proportion to his and their understanding on what they were able to do. I was blown away by that. I am challenged to live by that.

Stella: Don’t you think that he also had a very experienced Fragment of God?

Henry Z: Yes, but the Fragment of God was not making the decisions for him, he was.

Stella: Yes, but are there not urgings to go a certain way?

Henry Z: Yes, we have that, we have urgings to go a certain way.

Stella: Maybe Jesus’ Thought-Adjuster was so powerful, and because Jesus’ mind was so highly-developed anyway, his Thought-Adjuster had an easy time influencing his great mind.

Henry Z: He probably did, I would venture to say that is correct but coming back to what I was trying to ask JarEl about the humanness, I began to see that it was OK to be human and try to be divine. So many times people want to make it black and white. The laws are made "don’t cross this line". It is either right or left; or, wrong or right; or black or white. It is not like that, life is not like that. This line is a huge gray matter which we all stumble on. We all stumble on this line, that is what I mean by humanness; this stumbling field which is our planet, this big giant stumbling field. You know, but we still have the presence of God within us and we are still aspiring and it is all OK.

JarEl: TR, George. I would like to interject here and expand on your point Henry. For this has corrupted many human beings. They have made mistakes and felt ashamed and they have been held hostage by this shame and gone deeper into corruption. It is when you make mistakes and admit that it is OK that you made such a mistake that it frees you from the shame and does not allow you to fall deeper into a downward spiral. Accept your mistakes, don’t dwell on them and don’t feel ashamed by them.

Henry Z: This is good news JarEl, this is news that the whole world needs because so many people live in guilt and shame. It tremendously compromises their being to function as sons and daughters of God. They think that God has written them off and scratched their name out of the Book of Life.

JarEl: TR, George. Are there any other questions?

Stella: When you were in human life, were the possibilities of mistakes on your planet as great as they are here?

JarEl: TR, George. The possibilities are always present, just because we were closer to Light and Life does not mean that I did not make many mistakes, in fact I did. I was taught on my world that mistakes were to be endured and overcome and that one must learn from them. I made many mistakes in my youth but I matured into a man by learning from these mistakes and I became closer to God. God does not frown upon you because you make mistakes. It is when you feel ashamed and have regret that you separate yourself from God. You can learn true knowledge from your mistakes, it is only through acceptance and forgiveness that you will come to understand why such a thing happened in the first place. Always give yourself the opportunity to reflect upon your mistakes and to ponder them and to examine and to come up with some sort of meaning. I promise you that you will find the answers if you look for them. Do not write off your mistakes as blunders, examine them but do not dwell on them. Acknowledge them but don’t regret them. That is all for tonight, until next time.

All: Thank you JarEl.