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Group: Nashville, Tennessee

Teacher: HAM

Topic: Patience

April 27, 2003

Ham: Greetings, children, I am Ham and I am grateful to be among you this evening. Welcome.

We are grateful also to have the opportunity to work with our newest transmitter this evening and I would like to begin my lesson with her aid.

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Yes, my dear ones, once again may I express my love for you all. You are all very remarkable as individuals and as a group. Your interest and devotion to the teaching mission is a blessing to us all. As you each have taken the pathway of spiritual growth, you have been guided every step of the way. That guidance will continue and is always there for you.

You all have received much and will be given much more which you will share with much love for others. Your deeds do not go unnoticed. You are continually guided and uplifted in the Father’s love.

Rebecca will continue with the transmission.

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Yes, very good my daughter, you do well.

Our lesson this evening shall be concerning patience. Every human being eventually must learn to have patience. The Father’s time moves at its own pace. Your spiritual growth cannot be hurried, nor can you change the pace of events by worrying or rushing. But, further, it is important to grown in patience toward others.

Impatience is a sign of immaturity and most human beings are stricken with this behavioral characteristic throughout the first half of life. As you mature, your patience ripens into forbearance, and your forbearance in to understanding, and your understanding into love so that the actions of those at a more immature level fraught with impatience, fraught with little fits of intolerance, their actions are understandable and are to be pitied more than condemned.

The small dog is an example. He is impatient, he craves immediate attention and gratification. He vocalizes his discontent. And so it is with human beings as well. Much social friction is the direct result of impatience.

Now, lastly, let us discuss patience with ourselves. Often times a person’s own actions or inactions are a cause for discontent. Every human being feels that they fall short under various situations and circumstances and there is a time when it is easier to accuse and condemn oneself than it is to embrace forgiveness. It is easier to think "If I had just done such and such, if I hadn’t done such and such". This way you keep focused on an action rather than a cause of that action.

To embrace forgiveness, one must embrace one’s helplessness. One must cease to hide in speculations and condemnations about one’s actions and look beyond to the deeper needs that are crying out for fulfillment, the deeper troubles. It is very important when you have moments of frustration to begin the process of stepping back, stepping back from the action and releasing the need for action because action often is covering a problem.

There are many people who push themselves beyond endurance in order to avoid any hint of helplessness. But my friends, we are helpless in the universe. We are not here to save ourselves. The Master said, "he who would lose his life shall find it". Part of this surrender is a patient process. One cannot give lip service to serving the Father while constantly serving oneself and be unified.

People further hide that inner helplessness through seeming to work constantly for others. The Master said, "the human heart is capable of great deceit", and most lives are layers of masking problems or denying the truth of one’s simple helplessness. Getting to that moment of truth when you can put down your guard surrendering the weapons of activity that give the illusion of power and safety is not an easy process. But, you must each of you have patience with yourselves.

Realize that there is no single answer, there is only a process and the process is painful. Vulnerability is painful. Seeing your weaknesses is painful. But, there is no other way to true peace. Inner peace implies inner honesty, inner acceptance, and inner forgiveness. None of these things are places of power or control. They are all places of helpless vulnerability.

The small dog is comical in his assertion of power. In the universe, human beings are seen in much the same way. But, human beings have the power of self-reflection that the dog does not. You each can laugh at your ridiculous poses yourselves. You can with good humor and gentle forgiveness, understand yourselves and forgive yourselves in order that you may come to that place of complete powerlessness where you can give everything you have and are and will be to the Father. You can grow and change.

There is no greater service to perform in this world. There is nothing that can redeem you besides the redeemer. You cannot justify barriers between yourselves and him in any way.

The Father has one command, "come to me", and your response should not be, "Father I will but right now I am busy serving your children". The primary decision in you lives must be, "Yes Father, I will come". Then, on the way, you will do his bidding. But, this will be his bidding, not yours.

This process of coming to the Father is a long one and you are just beginning. Have patience with yourselves, but also when you recognize something that is holding you back, anything that you are putting between you and the Father, between you and your real self, these things must be gradually removed.

Be unafraid of vulnerability. Be unafraid of helplessness for in that helplessness you will find true safety and in that vulnerability you will find your true selves. Are there any questions?

Q: Ham I have not been in a while and it is really good to be here. I have been reading the transcripts. Thank you for your guidance and if you have anything for me this week I would love to hear it.

Ham: Yes my daughter, you are doing very well. But, you also must be careful that this strength that serves you well in the world should not hinder you when it comes to you and the Father. Be careful not to be too self-sufficient, too self-made for your soul in its purity is as a tiny child open and vulnerable to the Father’s gentle love and this soul must grow and become more of you, not something that is less. Do not be afraid of this process for your inner beauty is revealed not through the great successes but through the human stumbles even failures. Be aware that balance is necessary for you right now and you are doing well to pursue this.

Q: Ham do you have any counsel for me tonight?

Ham: Of course, my beloved daughter, you are also struggling with the demand of the spirit. You have been through a long period of breaking down that which was. The things that you valued, the person that you were, even five years ago, is no more. You are being reborn in a sense and you are coming to realize that in truth you are a wonderful person. You are a beloved daughter of the Father and as I said earlier, he will guide your footsteps. Trust him. A new way will open, and it will be as though you are going home. You will have everything you need. Be completely at peace.

Q: Do you have a personal message for me?

Ham: Yes, my daughter, you are also doing well. You are a person of great skill and of growing self-awareness. Your path has been complicated by conflicting emotions and feelings concerning your own inner worth. But, I want to give you reassurance to let you know that all these things have been part of your growth, that nothing has been wasted, that all is valuable. The most important thing for you to begin to grasp and to grasp it with your heart and not your mind, and that is that the Father absolutely adores you. There is nothing about you that the Father does not love. You are someone who has been hurt by religion. But this must ben worked through now and forgiveness must be sought and achieved whole heartedly. Go in peace my dear. Everything is much better than you think it is.

Q: Ham I just want to say it’s good to be back and I would appreciate anything you have to say to me tonight.

Ham: Yes my son. You are also doing very well. The lesson concerning patience is very important for you. There was not a lot of patience afforded you when you were a child. And so, you don’t believe that you deserve to be indulged with patience. You are someone who is patient with other people, but not with yourself. I still see a lot of inner self-condemnation that you must begin working through. There was not a lot of support for you in your childhood home. You were more the emotional support others relied upon. But my son, these things are behind you and your work with the Father must be your own. Pray to him to give you that patience with yourself that will lead to love for yourself. Embrace your human weaknesses. Do not deny that they exist. Usually, children coming out of a home where there are patterns of denial continue those patterns in different ways and this can be very debilitating in the long term. This week when you are frustrated with yourself for any reason, say to yourself "This just shows me that I am helpless and that I am weak and that is what I need to know".

Q: Ham, I need your advice on an interpersonal matter please.

Ham: Yes, my daughter, this dilemma is very real and you are coming to make a decision, but you must accept the consequences of this decision. You must be willing to accept the decisions that the other person may make in reaction to your decision and be prepared to accept what the fallout may be. As harsh as it is, there are some situations where human beings confuse love and dependence. Each human being must grow and develop in all areas. But there are many who will not grow if not forced into it. You want to be a true partner and help mate and you see that to gain that there must be changes which risk the relationship because it alters the dynamic. So, you must decide to either keep that dynamic as it is, or try to change it through drastic steps. This is your choice and yours to make with the Father. In all decisions, the Father will guide you and give you strength. Be at peace my dear. You will be fine and so will all concerned.

Q: Do you have anything for Rebecca?

Ham: Yes my daughter, you are doing very well. You are constant in your loyalty and this is very refreshing and obvious to others. You are a person who is loyal to the highest spiritual values. You are unwaveringly loyal to the people you love, including myself. And so you inspire loyalty as well. The people around you don’t want to disappoint you and so you have to be sensitive to this for everyone disappoints everyone one else sooner or later and you are unaware of this desire on the part of others. Know that you have come through a trying time of the spirit that is now passing. Inner peace is your reward.

Q: Jarad?

Ham: Yes, my son, you are doing very well. You have come to understand yourself better and better. But, most importantly, you have come to forgive yourself and in that forgiveness your understanding has grown. The spiritual path has been a very rocky one for you, not one step has been easy. But through it all you have had tremendous faith and that faith is unwavering. This is what is important. You have been tested and found not wanting for faith. With faith if God, all things are possible.

Q: Do you have any feedback for me this week?

Ham: Yes, my son, you are doing very well. This lesson was largely for you tonight. You are growing in patience and tolerance every day and you are coming gradually to embrace your soul which is that helpless child in the universe. Turn ever more completely to the Father with a whole heart. If there be impediments between you and him, endeavor to remove them. Use humor to defuse the seriousness of your days. Have a light heart, and go forth with increasing faith. You are someone with a very sturdy sense of what you feel you should be, but there is a part of you that is constantly conscious of falling short. Understand then, that the Father loves you just the way you are right now, no more, no less, no different. All the pain, all the fears, all the struggles, all this is known. All this is experienced with you. All you can do is embrace the Father’s love and you must do that in the now, as you are. His love heals everything. There is no wound too deep that his love will not seek it out and heal it. It is for you to allow this process. It is OK to be defenseless. Your defense has for years been the intellect. But the intellect is a small thing in this great universe. All the various shields people use, weapons they employ, to feel a little less afraid are small things, like the dog’s tiny teeth, they cannot do much real protecting. It is in his mind that he is fearsome and all powerful. So be at peace with yourself today, right now.

Go with my love and my blessings upon you, all of you for each day is a new beginning. Trust the Father to give you what you need as you go forth laying down the old armor and trusting your vulnerability in the universe.